Becoming a Mrs
Written by: Webmaster
I always wondered what it would feel like to be a bride. Now that the day has passed and I look back on the emotional roller coaster I can honestly say it was all worth it.
Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. It was for me. I was married only a couple of weeks ago in April. So many people were asking how I felt in the weeks leading to our big day. I was excited of course. I was also nervous to know it would all turn out ok. Was the weather going to be kind? Should I change my plans for decorating? The planning involved with a wedding can often overshadow the reason for the day. Ultimately you are aiming to walk down an aisle and be married to the love of your life. Remind yourself of that as the time gets closer.
I had one goal when I became engaged. Be as organised as I could be, so that in the final weeks before I was to be married I could enjoy my last days of single life. There is only so much a person can do with the planning and I was proud of myself at how calm I was on the morning of our wedding.
My day started by waking alongside my almost husband. I felt more comfortable sleeping at our home. I didn’t want to wake him so I gave him a quick kiss, said “see you at the end of the aisle” and left to get ready at my mums house.
The atmosphere was electric with girly excitement. Everyone was waiting for me to arrive and get started with the hair and make-up. My best friend kept asking if I was ok. I think she was secretly waiting for evil Kara to emerge. She knows me, and understands how much effort I’d put into the day. I laughed and said there is nothing more I can do, if something goes wrong, well it is meant to be.
The day passes quickly. I had a smile that didn’t leave my face and I was happy to just sit and take everything in. I couldn’t escape the happy cry when my mum took me aside and gave me a letter. I am not known to cry, and I hoped I didn’t use today to turn into a blubbering mess.
I must have been unconsciously nervous because I started talking. A lot. I do that when I’m on edge but I’m not the one to notice it, I’m told about it later that night.
Before I knew it I was being rushed into my gown and as everyone was gushing I realised I hadn’t seen myself yet. I took a quiet moment and retreated to the bathroom. I think it is very important to take that moment to look at your self alone. I was staring at the person reflecting back at me and my heart skipped a beat.
I’m a bride.
Oh boy.
It’s here, after 16months of planning I’m going to be married!!
And then the nerves kick in. Is he going to turn up? Of course he is, he loves me. Am I going to be ok…..
My brother walked in, interrupting my silent freak out. That was a bad idea. I started to cry again, but only for a moment. He reassures it is only because I became overwhelmed and we head out to join the group. Everyone I’ve spoken to says they got nervous on their day. It is important to breathe (as deeply as you can in a corset), and remind yourself that it will all turn out ok, and that’s what I did.
The drive to the ceremony is great. You have the chance to listen to the radio, and thanks to my bridesmaids, an impromptu karaoke session. We arrive and were ushered into the reception room to await our cue. When I walked into the main room it was like all of my dreams had come true. I was elated at the sight of my hard work set up on the tables exactly as I’d imagined, it was the best feeling.
I was so excited at that moment I forget why I was there until the celebrant interrupted my joy to announce the ceremony was about to begin. We gathered and I heard the music changing.
Ok, its time.
Breathe. Focus. Smile.
How do I describe the walking down the aisle moment? There was a sea of smiling faces, so happy for us both. The sun shining on us, and I caught my brother’s face as he guided my arm, it was full of pride. Then I turned a corner and saw Scott. Everything else melted away, he was there, and I had to make it up to him. The nerves left and were replaced by contentment. His smile is perfection, and his eyes are lit with love. This is our moment, nobody else matters. I don’t care if uncle bob down the back can’t hear my vows, as long as Scott has heard them clearly. Your vows aren’t meant to be staged. Scott forgot what to say, I started to choke up and needed a moment so I could continue. We kiss, high five and its done we’re married!!
The rest of the evening is one huge party. Everyone is having fun, dancing and eating. The speeches saw me laughing, going beet red and crying. All emotions are heightened because this event is so long in the making. I did have a moment with my husband alone later in the evening, as everyone partied. We head out for a couple of pics but it gave us the chance to reflect briefly, and just stand, hold hands and watch our loved ones celebrate our union.
Once we head off we’re both buzzing. I don’t feel exhausted, I feel light and happy. We spoke about our day and then sit back and bask in the feeling that something great just happened.
The months, maybe years that are spent planning a wedding are all over within a few short hours. We don’t regret a single thing we did for our wedding, we knew what we wanted from it and it was delivered. The day went off without a hitch, but if something had gone wrong, who cares? When all is said and done the most important thing really is each other.
You cannot prepare your emotions for a wedding. It is uncontrollable. It is a giant ball of elation, excitement, nerves, and a sprinkle of nostalgia. Take each emotion as it comes, and enjoy every moment. Don’t over react if the flowers arrive with a different hue of pink, or one of your bridesmaids is self conscious in her dress. Keep calm. Know that the people with you are happy to help. Put trust in your decisions for the day, and try to remember everything because when you wake up the morning after it is all so blurred. Enjoy your wedding day, and most of all enjoy the life you have together afterwards. I know I will.
~Kara.
Your wedding day is supposed to be the happiest day of your life. It was for me. I was married only a couple of weeks ago in April. So many people were asking how I felt in the weeks leading to our big day. I was excited of course. I was also nervous to know it would all turn out ok. Was the weather going to be kind? Should I change my plans for decorating? The planning involved with a wedding can often overshadow the reason for the day. Ultimately you are aiming to walk down an aisle and be married to the love of your life. Remind yourself of that as the time gets closer.
I had one goal when I became engaged. Be as organised as I could be, so that in the final weeks before I was to be married I could enjoy my last days of single life. There is only so much a person can do with the planning and I was proud of myself at how calm I was on the morning of our wedding.
My day started by waking alongside my almost husband. I felt more comfortable sleeping at our home. I didn’t want to wake him so I gave him a quick kiss, said “see you at the end of the aisle” and left to get ready at my mums house.
The atmosphere was electric with girly excitement. Everyone was waiting for me to arrive and get started with the hair and make-up. My best friend kept asking if I was ok. I think she was secretly waiting for evil Kara to emerge. She knows me, and understands how much effort I’d put into the day. I laughed and said there is nothing more I can do, if something goes wrong, well it is meant to be.
The day passes quickly. I had a smile that didn’t leave my face and I was happy to just sit and take everything in. I couldn’t escape the happy cry when my mum took me aside and gave me a letter. I am not known to cry, and I hoped I didn’t use today to turn into a blubbering mess.
I must have been unconsciously nervous because I started talking. A lot. I do that when I’m on edge but I’m not the one to notice it, I’m told about it later that night.
Before I knew it I was being rushed into my gown and as everyone was gushing I realised I hadn’t seen myself yet. I took a quiet moment and retreated to the bathroom. I think it is very important to take that moment to look at your self alone. I was staring at the person reflecting back at me and my heart skipped a beat.
I’m a bride.
Oh boy.
It’s here, after 16months of planning I’m going to be married!!
And then the nerves kick in. Is he going to turn up? Of course he is, he loves me. Am I going to be ok…..
My brother walked in, interrupting my silent freak out. That was a bad idea. I started to cry again, but only for a moment. He reassures it is only because I became overwhelmed and we head out to join the group. Everyone I’ve spoken to says they got nervous on their day. It is important to breathe (as deeply as you can in a corset), and remind yourself that it will all turn out ok, and that’s what I did.
The drive to the ceremony is great. You have the chance to listen to the radio, and thanks to my bridesmaids, an impromptu karaoke session. We arrive and were ushered into the reception room to await our cue. When I walked into the main room it was like all of my dreams had come true. I was elated at the sight of my hard work set up on the tables exactly as I’d imagined, it was the best feeling.
I was so excited at that moment I forget why I was there until the celebrant interrupted my joy to announce the ceremony was about to begin. We gathered and I heard the music changing.
Ok, its time.
Breathe. Focus. Smile.
How do I describe the walking down the aisle moment? There was a sea of smiling faces, so happy for us both. The sun shining on us, and I caught my brother’s face as he guided my arm, it was full of pride. Then I turned a corner and saw Scott. Everything else melted away, he was there, and I had to make it up to him. The nerves left and were replaced by contentment. His smile is perfection, and his eyes are lit with love. This is our moment, nobody else matters. I don’t care if uncle bob down the back can’t hear my vows, as long as Scott has heard them clearly. Your vows aren’t meant to be staged. Scott forgot what to say, I started to choke up and needed a moment so I could continue. We kiss, high five and its done we’re married!!
The rest of the evening is one huge party. Everyone is having fun, dancing and eating. The speeches saw me laughing, going beet red and crying. All emotions are heightened because this event is so long in the making. I did have a moment with my husband alone later in the evening, as everyone partied. We head out for a couple of pics but it gave us the chance to reflect briefly, and just stand, hold hands and watch our loved ones celebrate our union.
Once we head off we’re both buzzing. I don’t feel exhausted, I feel light and happy. We spoke about our day and then sit back and bask in the feeling that something great just happened.
The months, maybe years that are spent planning a wedding are all over within a few short hours. We don’t regret a single thing we did for our wedding, we knew what we wanted from it and it was delivered. The day went off without a hitch, but if something had gone wrong, who cares? When all is said and done the most important thing really is each other.
You cannot prepare your emotions for a wedding. It is uncontrollable. It is a giant ball of elation, excitement, nerves, and a sprinkle of nostalgia. Take each emotion as it comes, and enjoy every moment. Don’t over react if the flowers arrive with a different hue of pink, or one of your bridesmaids is self conscious in her dress. Keep calm. Know that the people with you are happy to help. Put trust in your decisions for the day, and try to remember everything because when you wake up the morning after it is all so blurred. Enjoy your wedding day, and most of all enjoy the life you have together afterwards. I know I will.
~Kara.